Self-esteem
In a lot of psychological disorders, but overcoat in problems of depression and anxiety, the person has a very low self-esteem. The self-esteem develops since we are born,and is very influenced by the styles of education and discipline employed by the parents and adults with which develop us, the experiences that go spending along our life, the success or failure in important areas of the life.
During all this time that go us spending things, go us relating,learning, each person evalua to himself same, if we evaluate us of negative form appear the internal dialogues based in the continuous self-criticism.This pathological critique affects to the state of spirit, the person tends to culpabilizarse and despise (negative thoughts).
The therapy to improve the self-esteem is based in remembering and work the own negative thoughts of the pathological critique,that the own person discover the errors to level of thought that this committing and that work on them. By means of a program of improvement of self-esteem, the person learns to face,analyse and change the cognitive errors that commits.
Together with a low self-esteem can appear emotional dependency:
It means to be subordinated to somebody, is so much the influence that exerts this person on us that can not be without her (so much physical as mentally) although we know that it is a toxic relation , harmful.
It appears the fear to the loss to the solitude, and symptoms of depression and/or anxiety, nerves.
This bond enfermizo did the another person does that this can not develop individually like person.
In the nearest relations clear is is where gives the emotional dependency (family,couple),the person of which depends is used to to be a personalidadtóxica, emotional blackmailer from here that it exert so much influence on the another person, does it feel badly, when feeling badly what achieves is to be even more dependent , going in in a circle that it costs to exit.
The emotional blackmailer deep down is a person with the very low self-esteem from here that it need to feel upper with the dependent, and the dependent also has the autoestimamuy low from here that it was very influenciable by this type of people that at first sight can look strong, attractive, good people.
To avert fall in a relation of emotional dependency is fundamental to maintain some levels of tall self-esteem.
It is necessary to be alerts not to fall in the harps of the emotional blackmailers!
EXPLORATORY questionnaire OF SELF-ESTEEM: (Only it has orientative value since it is necessary a professional assessment)
1-IN THE MAJORITY OF THE OCCASIONS COSTS YOU SAY THAT NO?
2-you ARE AN EXTREMIST PERSON IN YOUR THOUGHTS,(DO not HAVE HALF TERM?
3-you NETTLE YOU EASILY WHEN THE THINGS DO not EXIT AS you WANT TO?
4-SEARCHES THE PERFECTION IF ALLOW YOU NEITHER A FAILURE?
5-you ARE SENSITIVE To THE CRITIQUE OF THE OTHER?
6-it COSTS YOU DEFEND YOUR OPINIONS And POINTS OF VIEW?
7-you SEAT YOU CULPRIT WHEN To OTHERS DOES not LOOK THEM VERY WHAT DO?
8-you ARE VERY DEMANDING WITH YOU SAME, AUTOCRÍTICO?
9-IN THE MAJORITY OF THE OCCASIONS THE OTHER DO not TAKE YOUR OPINION?
If you HAVE ANSWERED THAT YES To THE MAJORITY OF THE QUESTIONS, HAVE DEFICITS IN SELF-ESTEEM.
The SELF-ESTEEM GOES FORGING Along OUR LIFE, SINCE we ARE BORN, IN OUR RELATIONS WITH THE FAMÍLIA, FRIENDS.....,And Along THE SITUATIONS THAT GO US SPENDING.
A LOW SELF-ESTEEM INVOLVES LEVELS OF ANXIETY ELEVATED And/Or SOME DEGREE OF DEPRESSION
Decide YOU To IMPROVE SELF-ESTEEM WITH A COACHING IN SELF-ESTEEM: you GO To IMPROVE IN YOUR RELATIONS WITH THE OTHER And IN THE CONCEPT THAT HAVE OF TÍ SAME/To.
To continuation propose them a reading for the reflection.
To augment the self-esteem:
-Look YOU IN THE MIRROR And SPEECH WITH ÉL: Sincérate with you same, looks to the mirror and ask him reason are like this and to where pretend to arrive. Preguntale Which are your dip and aspirations . Look you and promises to try it
-It thinks POSITIVELY: The world is not white neither black is full of nuances, then, Why have to think the worst?It changes your thoughts and will change your life.
-MANTEN CONSTRUCTIVE attitude: In place to see it all bad, reason do not think in building? You do not lose the time in negative thoughts and distorted.Bet by a happy life.
-Evaluate YOUR THOUGHTS: Evalua the costs and profits of your daily attitudes.You have to evaluate if really it compensates you cause you an anger tremendo by something that probably does not have main importance.Better positive attitudes that torturate pointlessly.
-Show YOU SUCH AS you ARE: you do not have fear to express emotions. It shares with the other the well and the bad of you.
-DESTIERRA The IMPROVEMENT: The two enemies of the self-esteem are, the improvement and the fear to the rejection, Who does not have a failure?
-Put HIM HUMOUR To THE LIFE: If your spirit is low, your self-esteem also will be it. It practises the good humour.
-It accepts THE FAILURES: The life is full of hang-ups for all. If you have assumed that you are not perfect, have to assume that you can fracasar. To win first is necessary to lose.
-NEVER PUT OFF TILL TOMORROW WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY: Your life is not a function of theatre, is here and now, no yesterday neither morning.
-It finds THE BALANCE: Do balance of your attitudes and actions. There will have been black days, grey and full of light, but the important is that looking your interior feel you to taste with you same.
The therapy to improve the self-esteem is based in remembering and work the own negative thoughts of the pathological critique,that the own person discover the errors to level of thought that this committing and that work on them. By means of a program of improvement of self-esteem, the person learns to face,analyse and change the cognitive errors that commits.
Together with a low self-esteem can appear emotional dependency:
It means to be subordinated to somebody, is so much the influence that exerts this person on us that can not be without her (so much physical as mentally) although we know that it is a toxic relation , harmful.
It appears the fear to the loss to the solitude, and symptoms of depression and/or anxiety, nerves.
This bond enfermizo did the another person does that this can not develop individually like person.
In the nearest relations clear is is where gives the emotional dependency (family,couple),the person of which depends is used to to be a personalidadtóxica, emotional blackmailer from here that it exert so much influence on the another person, does it feel badly, when feeling badly what achieves is to be even more dependent , going in in a circle that it costs to exit.
The emotional blackmailer deep down is a person with the very low self-esteem from here that it need to feel upper with the dependent, and the dependent also has the autoestimamuy low from here that it was very influenciable by this type of people that at first sight can look strong, attractive, good people.
To avert fall in a relation of emotional dependency is fundamental to maintain some levels of tall self-esteem.
It is necessary to be alerts not to fall in the harps of the emotional blackmailers!
EXPLORATORY questionnaire OF SELF-ESTEEM: (Only it has orientative value since it is necessary a professional assessment)
1-IN THE MAJORITY OF THE OCCASIONS COSTS YOU SAY THAT NO?
2-you ARE AN EXTREMIST PERSON IN YOUR THOUGHTS,(DO not HAVE HALF TERM?
3-you NETTLE YOU EASILY WHEN THE THINGS DO not EXIT AS you WANT TO?
4-SEARCHES THE PERFECTION IF ALLOW YOU NEITHER A FAILURE?
5-you ARE SENSITIVE To THE CRITIQUE OF THE OTHER?
6-it COSTS YOU DEFEND YOUR OPINIONS And POINTS OF VIEW?
7-you SEAT YOU CULPRIT WHEN To OTHERS DOES not LOOK THEM VERY WHAT DO?
8-you ARE VERY DEMANDING WITH YOU SAME, AUTOCRÍTICO?
9-IN THE MAJORITY OF THE OCCASIONS THE OTHER DO not TAKE YOUR OPINION?
If you HAVE ANSWERED THAT YES To THE MAJORITY OF THE QUESTIONS, HAVE DEFICITS IN SELF-ESTEEM.
The SELF-ESTEEM GOES FORGING Along OUR LIFE, SINCE we ARE BORN, IN OUR RELATIONS WITH THE FAMÍLIA, FRIENDS.....,And Along THE SITUATIONS THAT GO US SPENDING.
A LOW SELF-ESTEEM INVOLVES LEVELS OF ANXIETY ELEVATED And/Or SOME DEGREE OF DEPRESSION
Decide YOU To IMPROVE SELF-ESTEEM WITH A COACHING IN SELF-ESTEEM: you GO To IMPROVE IN YOUR RELATIONS WITH THE OTHER And IN THE CONCEPT THAT HAVE OF TÍ SAME/To.
To continuation propose them a reading for the reflection.
To augment the self-esteem:
-Look YOU IN THE MIRROR And SPEECH WITH ÉL: Sincérate with you same, looks to the mirror and ask him reason are like this and to where pretend to arrive. Preguntale Which are your dip and aspirations . Look you and promises to try it
-It thinks POSITIVELY: The world is not white neither black is full of nuances, then, Why have to think the worst?It changes your thoughts and will change your life.
-MANTEN CONSTRUCTIVE attitude: In place to see it all bad, reason do not think in building? You do not lose the time in negative thoughts and distorted.Bet by a happy life.
-Evaluate YOUR THOUGHTS: Evalua the costs and profits of your daily attitudes.You have to evaluate if really it compensates you cause you an anger tremendo by something that probably does not have main importance.Better positive attitudes that torturate pointlessly.
-Show YOU SUCH AS you ARE: you do not have fear to express emotions. It shares with the other the well and the bad of you.
-DESTIERRA The IMPROVEMENT: The two enemies of the self-esteem are, the improvement and the fear to the rejection, Who does not have a failure?
-Put HIM HUMOUR To THE LIFE: If your spirit is low, your self-esteem also will be it. It practises the good humour.
-It accepts THE FAILURES: The life is full of hang-ups for all. If you have assumed that you are not perfect, have to assume that you can fracasar. To win first is necessary to lose.
-NEVER PUT OFF TILL TOMORROW WHAT YOU CAN DO TODAY: Your life is not a function of theatre, is here and now, no yesterday neither morning.
-It finds THE BALANCE: Do balance of your attitudes and actions. There will have been black days, grey and full of light, but the important is that looking your interior feel you to taste with you same.
